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The instinct to grip hard and never let go to keep them (me) feeling safe is contrary to how growth works. My job is to let go just as soon as I can so they can fly on their own. If I keep holding them to me, we'll both stay stuck in the nest, or plummet to the ground in a tangle of broken wings.

Radical kindness + take care of your own heart + keep perspective on where we are in history.

I think it's an exaggeration to say time heals all wounds. Some can't and you just learn to build your new self around them.

We had an option and we chose this. Bruised all over inside, soggy around the edges. I am grieving.

I'm trying to make friends in our new home (3.5 years new) and it's haarrrrdddd. I'm only mildly social and pretty busy with kids, pets,...

Every time I go to a Pride event, I leave feeling amazing. The radical love and acceptance is so vivid, I can taste it in the air. It's a...

I don't know how to function when my kid is struggling. I'm sure it's condependent and there's a better way, but when my kids are in...

That's what the therapist for my ten year-old told me tonight, when I was hemming and hawing over whether it was too much for me to ask...

Remember playing the M.A.S.H. game as kids? It very accurately predicted life as an adult: who you would marry, where you would live, ...

I long to have a place inside me that feels safe, no matter what is happening outside of me. A little island that's always dry and warm,...

I've been hearing that magical shift that happens after forty for decades. I had friends who swore once they turned forty, they stopped...

I'm worried that this will all sound trite on paper, but it feels big and light in my chest, so I'm going to try to express it the best I...

Alternate title: It's Probably Just Me and I Don't Want You To Worry About Me (But Please Worry About Me) I can't tell you how many...

This was from 23 years ago-we'd been dating for about 3 years and got married 2 years after this. I was 19, he was 22. That was...

We had our first marriage counseling session today. I was nervous (see previous fear rant) and skeptical as the therapist the online...

My heart hurts all the time, and I'm told that's normal when you're a parent. I worry, I fear, I struggle, I put everything I have into...

I recently performed the burlesque act that I've been working on for the past few months. The showcase was transformational and the whole...

I now have video proof of what I look like when dancing topless. It's not great. "Oh, God, that's me?!" BUT I'm trying REALLY hard to see...

I'm sitting on a hotel bed, surrounded by leftover containers and coffee mugs. The continental breakfast included miso soup and kimchi...

I'm sitting here trying not to cry. Not exactly sure why I'm holding back, probably just habit, a discipline I've forced on myself from...