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The instinct to grip hard and never let go to keep them (me) feeling safe is contrary to how growth works. My job is to let go just as soon as I can so they can fly on their own. If I keep holding them to me, we'll both stay stuck in the nest, or plummet to the ground in a tangle of broken wings.

My stupid morning started at midnight.

I think it's an exaggeration to say time heals all wounds. Some can't and you just learn to build your new self around them.

It started about a week ago, this sense of doom. The kids were getting ready to go back to school, and instead of tasting my impending...

That's what the therapist for my ten year-old told me tonight, when I was hemming and hawing over whether it was too much for me to ask...

Can she live up to what we all need her to be? GOOD MOM has big shoes to fill, but she must take tiny, quiet steps. Does she know what...

Picture it: you have a huge bowl of your favorite ice cream, fresh out of the freezer, just the right amount of melty. It looks and...

This was from 23 years ago-we'd been dating for about 3 years and got married 2 years after this. I was 19, he was 22. That was...

So, remember when we started therapy with an older, wisened therapist who seemed kind of quirky? We met with him again this week, and I...

I have advised a lot of other people to do marriage counseling over the years and have even said dumb shit like, "It's a way to keep...

My heart hurts all the time, and I'm told that's normal when you're a parent. I worry, I fear, I struggle, I put everything I have into...

I'm sitting here trying not to cry. Not exactly sure why I'm holding back, probably just habit, a discipline I've forced on myself from...

He wasn't raised right and that's on me, and now it's too late He'll get lost on his way to school and end up joining a band of nomads...

Recently my husband and I had a big ol' fight about the fact that he exists at the same time that I exist, in the same home, and how I...

Recently, we went to the fifth grade graduation ceremony for our eldest...and I wept. It's still a fairly new school to us- we only...

In a way, I think it made it easier when I myself got sick, too, because then I could just lie down and stay stoned on NyQuil while the...

This week, COVID finally hit us. We’ve been as cautious as we reasonably could be, but you know, COVID’s like honey badger; it don’t...

https://www.the-seam.com/stories/the-mother-of-all-holiday-triggers-its-ok-not-to-feel-celebratory-on-mothers-day

The mother was dressed in clean clothes and had taken a shower and applied deoderant. This was one of her better-smelling days. She had...