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The instinct to grip hard and never let go to keep them (me) feeling safe is contrary to how growth works. My job is to let go just as soon as I can so they can fly on their own. If I keep holding them to me, we'll both stay stuck in the nest, or plummet to the ground in a tangle of broken wings.

Radical kindness + take care of your own heart + keep perspective on where we are in history.

In marriage counseling, we've been doing Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy - which is basically identifying your triggers- where you...

It started about a week ago, this sense of doom. The kids were getting ready to go back to school, and instead of tasting my impending...

Every time I go to a Pride event, I leave feeling amazing. The radical love and acceptance is so vivid, I can taste it in the air. It's a...

I don't know how to function when my kid is struggling. I'm sure it's condependent and there's a better way, but when my kids are in...

I haven't been writing because I don't know how to begin to share what I've been going through. Also, I'm hesitant because I'm not sure...

That's what the therapist for my ten year-old told me tonight, when I was hemming and hawing over whether it was too much for me to ask...

Alright, so let me start by saying that this movie is strange and arty and will be taught in film school going forward. I am certain it's...

I woke up with a headache and the feeling that leaving my bed today would be ambitious. It could be from the pressure changes; it’s...

Before you ask me why we go to Costco if it gives me such anxiety spasms, just know that 1) we live in the suburbs and have a pantry, 2)...

I've been hearing that magical shift that happens after forty for decades. I had friends who swore once they turned forty, they stopped...

It's taken me a few days to work through my feelings. I hadn't fully understood what it would do to me to commune with some of those...

I'm worried that this will all sound trite on paper, but it feels big and light in my chest, so I'm going to try to express it the best I...

Alternate title: It's Probably Just Me and I Don't Want You To Worry About Me (But Please Worry About Me) I can't tell you how many...

This was from 23 years ago-we'd been dating for about 3 years and got married 2 years after this. I was 19, he was 22. That was...

So, remember when we started therapy with an older, wisened therapist who seemed kind of quirky? We met with him again this week, and I...

We had our first marriage counseling session today. I was nervous (see previous fear rant) and skeptical as the therapist the online...

I have advised a lot of other people to do marriage counseling over the years and have even said dumb shit like, "It's a way to keep...

My heart hurts all the time, and I'm told that's normal when you're a parent. I worry, I fear, I struggle, I put everything I have into...